Nollywood actress Damilola Adegbite has shared heartfelt reflections on emotional maturity, self-worth, and personal growth as she marks her 40th birthday.
In a video posted to her Instagram page on Monday, Adegbite opened up about some of the profound life lessons she has learned over the years, key among them being that “nobody owes you anything.”
“One of the most liberating truths you will ever learn, that will set you free from disappointments, heartbreak, and unmet expectations, is that nobody owes you anything,” she said.
She noted that while it is human nature to expect kindness, reciprocity, or closure, life often doesn’t unfold in such a fair or predictable manner.
The actress urged her followers to take full responsibility for their peace and let go of unrealistic expectations from others.
“Sometimes, the people you showed up for will not show up for you. Sometimes, your hard efforts will go unnoticed. Sometimes, that apology you are waiting for will not come,” she said.
“If you own anything, you make your life better. Somebody shows you love, care, attention, in whatever way of form, it’s not your entitlement.
“They choose to care, they don’t have to. You are not owned anything, my darling. Not success, not opportunities. You work for it, and when it comes, if it comes, you must own it.”
Adegbite emphasized the power of emotional independence, urging her audience to “observe, adjust, and keep it moving” rather than handing over their peace due to unmet expectations.
She concluded by saying, “Learn how to not be offended. It will help you a great deal. That’s all I wanted to say today, my darling. Have a beautiful rest of the week.”
