“If someone tells us about their past, we would subconsciously judge them,” she emphasised.
She said this at a recent relationship-focused Pulse Hot Takes podcast episode. She emphasized the importance of maintaining some privacy in partnerships when it comes to personal history.
“I don’t believe in telling your boyfriend everything about your past because old things have passed away and all things have become new. The only thing you should be able to tell your partner is things that affect them,” she said.
The CEO of Blessing emphasized that people are inherently judgmental, so it is possible to face criticism after disclosing personal information.
“When I start telling him things like ‘ I had sugar daddy’s when I was in school’, let me tell you how the human mind works. Naturally, we are judgmental no matter what. If someone walks in here in a skimpy skirt, even if you don’t say it your eyes would have already judged the person. That’s why I always tell women to learn to shut up, and men ‘What do you want to know?’” she said.
“It doesn’t help to want to know everything, it kills the relationship. When you meet someone, forget their past, they’re like brand new. It’s like selling your phone, they will format and wipe it first. Our minds are like computers, If someone tells us about their past, we would subconsciously judge them, and mark the word ‘subconsciously’. Why do want to know her past, many men dig up things that they can’t bury. Men say they want the truth but can they take the truth, let the past be the past,” she said.